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In Defense of Anyone Who Has Ever Made a Terrible Mistake (Kristen Stewart Included)
No one is perfect.

In light of the recent backlash of the Kristen Stewart/Rupert Sanders cheating scandal, you would think the world was made up of a bunch of perfect saints who have never done so much as blurt a swear word. All it takes is a glimpse at the tabloids and their subsequent reader comments to realize that people are on one of the biggest hypocritical, self-righteous rampages ever. Before I go further I'd like to say that I am not a Kristen Stewart fan. In fact, she is one of the few actresses that actually bugs the shit out of me. Her blasé, 'too cool for the world' image and borderline constipated acting makes me want to rip my eyes out. Worse, she comes of as spoiled and ungrateful, as in her most recent July 2012 interview with Elle where she ironically expressed, "I feel boring. I feel like, Why is everything so easy for me? I can't wait for something crazy to f---ing happen to me. Just life. I want someone to f--- me over! Do you know what I mean?"

In other interviews she sounds completely unaware and nauseatingly in denial, "I don't want to be a movie star like Angelina Jolie. Nothing about being a celebrity is desirable. I'm an actor. It's bizarre to me that everybody's so obsessive," as Stewart told Blackbook magazine in November 2009.

All that aside, she made a colossal mistake. As many, many people have. (Hopefully we all learn from them.) It doesn't make her an axe murderer or the worst person in the world. It doesn't even mean she'll ever do it again. Most people have had lapses of judgement, whether it involved betrayal, cheating, stealing, or lying. Some of these mistakes are monumental and ruin lives, others are flukes that we can move on from. Either way, they are mistakes that don't always define a person's character for the rest of their lives; and they certainly don't give anyone the right to judge as if they've never made a mistake in their lives either.

Perhaps the most ridiculous part of the situation is that 22-year-old Stewart is getting a heavier misogynistic backlash as the "whore temptress" rather than Rupert Sanders who is a 41-year-old married man with two children and far more life experience. He really should have known better. Regardless, both parties are wrong and should be held equally accountable. Personally, I have never come remotely close to such a mistake, and if I were the recipient of infidelity, I would move on and not look back --as I imagine many people would. This, however, does not give me or anyone else free rein to character assassinate like some kind of holier-than-thou saints. It's safe to say a fair amount of those passing judgement have made equally bad decisions in one form or another.

The real issue at hand is not so much Kristen Stewart's/Rupert Sanders' infidelity as it is society's complete lack of perspective. It's time to get off the high horse and look in the mirror, world. You're not perfect either.